When I met my current partner a year ago, I was at my fattest, about lbs heavier than he is, making our sex the most drastic in terms of size difference relative to my past partners. It works just great and I love it. This brings me to what I feel is one of the most important parts of enjoying sex as a fat woman:. Your partner knows, and guess what? He or she wants to have sex with you.
Ever wondered how a sex coach decides to make sex their job? Athena Mae found her unlikely calling as a teenager, when friends came to her with their questions. Then she started teaching body-positive sex education. This is what 20 years of shedding myths about sex and body size has taught her.
I was 16, a size 14 and it was —long before body positivity hit the mainstream or my Tumblr feed. Now, as a year-old woman wearing a size 20, sex has changed year after year as my body has gotten bigger and the dating pool has gotten smaller. Before fucking someone new, I feel the need to address my fatness before we meet. I think this is what some guys were hoping would happen too. Avoiding belly touching makes it all the more obvious that the belly is there.
Fat Girl Sex is a bi-weekly sex column devoted to the celebration of the sexual empowerment of women, body, and sex-positivity featuring personal meandering about all the nasty things we do in the dark. For the majority of my chubby life, the only time I heard about fat girls having sex was as the butt of a joke or as the description of a fetish. The cultural acceptance of fatphobia dehumanizing and desexualizing our bodies, framing our desirability as laughable and our sexuality as pathetic.